Written by Abby Caymol | Sep 19, 2023

To answer before listening— that is folly and shame. -Proverbs 18:13 NIV

Assuming it could be dangerous.

In every aspect of our lives, anticipating is becoming a new norm. And mostly, when it comes to romantic connections, to assume is already related to someone’s feelings towards another person.

It is inevitable to fight expectations because one thing about this is that it gives you happiness. When you see someone you like, and it seems that someone is showing interest in you in secret, your thoughts start to create imaginations, and what’s worse, it will be uncontrollable in the long run.

You will start to create romantic imaginations, leaving you unfocused on anything and just wanting to think about it repeatedly.

If you are a Christian who firmly believes in Biblical standards about waiting for an Ephesians 5:25-33 man, receiving mixed signals from someone you like will be challenging.

Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him. -Psalms 37:7a NIV

You’ve been waiting for so many years, and finally, someone captured your heart, but you’re unsure if it is him whom God prepared for you.

These are the tips to avoid assuming and breaking the walls within your creative imagination:

1. ASK GOD FOR CLARITY

When it seems you found Mr. Ephesians guy already but are unsure if he is the one God prepared for you, the first thing you should do is talk to Jesus. Sometimes, fear will overtake you not to speak to God because you are afraid of what God will answer, if it is a yes or a no.

You know that asking God to confirm your special someone will protect you from the things you haven’t seen yet. The Lord sees way ahead. Making God your utmost priority over your feelings will save you a big heartache if he is not the one God has promised you.

2. READY YOUR HEART

Proverbs 18:13 says to answer before listening is foolishness and shame. Yes, molding your answers while waiting for God’s answer or even before you ask God will put you at risk. When you discover your special someone’s character, and he is not the one you expected him to be, it will give you anxiety. The brick walls of imagination you built will collapse and strike you hard.

A relationship that God gives starts with godly friendship.

The God-given Mr. Ephesians 5 man will not rush you, he will not give mixed or wrong signals, he will respect your body, your opinion will matter, and most of all, he will love you right because he loves God first and carries the love of Jesus. He will bring you closer to God.

The fruit of the Spirit is always visible in his life. Be open and prepare your heart for God’s direction and answer. In singleness or a relationship, trust God’s protection for you.

3. FOCUS ON GOD ALONE

You need to know that the enemy will use your feelings to create a block on you so you cannot hear the voice of God in your heart. It will bring spiritual blindness into your life.

Mostly, when you are happy about daydreaming about your special someone, your attention starts to divide in two ways.

It will start with the music you are listening to.

You will see yourself spending so much time listening to love songs rather than praising and worshipping God. Listening to secular music, such as love songs, is fine, but we must be cautious about what songs we enter our minds with. It may encourage you, or it will poison your mind. If these songs give you bittersweet feelings and take an ample space of attention in your heart, sister, raise your flag! Its S.O.S!

If your special someone starts to run into your thoughts than usual because of you, receiving wrong signals and anticipation from him, put on your guard. Divert your attention to Jesus and God’s promises for you.

4. READ THE WORD OF GOD

Talking to God is very important, but being with Him in harmony by spending time with His word is essential.

God speaks in so many ways to answer your prayers and questions. It could be in your dreams, songs, or situations, but mostly, He will answer you through the scriptures. You will know clearly if the signal is on green light if it is not in confusion. God will never leave you questionable about your feelings toward someone, nor will He not let you anticipate someone He did not prepare for you.

If you find yourself in the pool of confusion, know that you haven’t heard God’s voice and direction closely. Reading His word and asking God to bless you with the scripture He wants you to think about daily and to put in the tablet of your heart will bring you to the right path.

My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. -John 10:27 NIV

Always remind yourself that changing a man’s heart is not your job. God is the maker of his heart, and Jesus is the Only One who can speak to him for you and transform his heart into how you pray it to God.

A godly friendship consists of sound signals. The love of God showers it because both hearts desire Jesus alone.

Waiting could be frustrating, but let’s not forget that God makes everything beautiful in its time (Ecclesiastes 3:11). 

Instead, wait for a lifetime by God’s grace rather than be in a hurry and end up catching wrong signals infused with confusion and heartbreak.

There is a great blessing for those who wait patiently with all their hearts.